Hey guys ❤️
I hope you’re all keeping warm in this very cold and rainy weather we’re having. I don’t know about you, but I am definitely not loving this weather at all! 😂
For most of my life, I’ve always believed that if you wanted to have friends or be in a relationship, you needed to change who you were in order for people to like you. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realised that couldn’t be further from the truth.
There is a reason why you are the way you are, and if the people around you don’t like or accept you for who you are, then maybe they aren’t the people you should be surrounding yourself with.
My whole life, I’ve always been the type of person who would do anything and everything to make the people around me happy, even if it came at the expense of my own happiness. And honestly, that is no way to live.
Constantly putting other people’s happiness before your own can leave you feeling unhappy, exhausted and like you’re not really enjoying your own life. Life is way too short to spend it making everyone else feel better while making yourself feel worse.
Now, don’t get me wrong — I’m not saying you should never put others first. It’s a beautiful thing to make the people you care about happy and to be there for them. But it should never consistently come at your own expense. It is not selfish or greedy to put your own happiness first sometimes. You matter too. ❤️
I’m now 27 years old, and for the first time in my life, I’ve found a friend who genuinely lets me be myself. She accepts me for who I am, flaws and all, and we laugh so much together, which I absolutely love because I’m always happy when I’m around her.
One of the things I really appreciate about her is that she is older than me. She’s in her 40s, and because I have an older brother and sister, I’ve always found that I connect better with people who are older than me. I think sometimes there’s a difference in maturity and perspective, and I really value that.
She has been such a positive influence on me. She’s encouraged me to go out more, pushed me out of my comfort zone and helped me experience things I probably wouldn’t have done on my own. She has brought me out of my shell in so many ways, and I’m genuinely grateful for that friendship.
I think as we get older, we realise that the right people won’t require us to become someone else just so they can like us. The right people will make you feel comfortable being exactly who you are.
So be yourself. Be happy. Surround yourself with people who accept you, encourage you and bring out the best in you.
Life is far too short to spend it being the person everyone else expects you to be. ❤️
Thank you for reading my post, I hope you enjoyed it.
Bye xx
